your child Knowing what to do when you lie can be difficult. On the one hand, you don’t want to embarrass him, on the other hand, you want to teach him important lessons with a healthy discipline by leading him in honesty. As adults, we know how hard it is to be honest. Whether we don’t want to upset the other person or don’t want to reveal our true self, we always have an urge to lie, no matter what age we are. However, the sooner we learn to avoid this urge, the better, and there is no healthier environment to learn about it than at home.
Most child He likes to dream when he’s young. children’s your imagination It is a normal and beautiful thing for him to develop, and you do not need to see it as a cause for concern unless there is a constant disconnection from reality. Telling stories that do not reflect reality is also a healthy stage for your children to develop their imagination. But when a child is deliberately lying to get him out of trouble, it’s a sign that parents need to take action and do something right away.
Children lie for different reasons, and it varies from situation to situation. They may lie or seek attention to avoid a result and to hide their mistakes because they are ashamed of what they have done. Therefore, parents may need to get to the root of the problem and find out why their child is lying, especially if this situation continues all the time.
If your child is lying to get attention, you should pay more attention to your child and give him the attention he needs. If your child is not telling the truth because they are afraid of you, you need to review how you react to your child’s shortcomings. If your child feels that he or she is in a safe environment, even when he or she makes a mistake, lying will not be their first choice.
Now that we understand why your child may lie, let’s examine practical ways you can apply when your child lies.
As we mentioned earlier, it’s important to find out why your child is lying. Want to get more attention? Should he feel safer to share things with you? Ask your child regularly, “Is there anything you’re having trouble saying to me?” Asking the question if there is something he is hiding from you to share It could be a good way to You can say to your child, “You can share anything with me and make sure it won’t be a problem.” As a parent, it’s better for you to know what your child is really doing than to be ignorant of it.
When your child lies parent It would be better for your child to understand what the consequences are when he lies. He will face consequences when he lies. It is important to let your child understand what can happen when he lies, as you should avoid getting angry and reproaching your child when he lies.
You will not be angry with or shame your child. Instead, you’ll be reminded of what happens when you lie, with the limits you set. Whatever this result is, it must be related to the lie your child told. So, for example, if your child says he’s brushing his teeth but hasn’t, not letting him eat candy for the rest of the week. When you lie, you must make sure that the result is harsh enough so that your child does not tell that lie again. It is also important that you inform your child in detail about this. For this example, tell him why it’s important to brush his teeth. Remind him that you tell him to brush his teeth because you care about his health, and if he doesn’t do it every day, his teeth can rot.
It is very important that you set an example for your children for healthy habits. The best way to teach a child is to be a good example. If you are not honest with those around you, your child will see it. For example, if you cancel a plan with your friends for a better opportunity and tell your friends that you are sick, it will not set a good example for your child. Your child will think he can lie when he has something he doesn’t want to do.
If you want your child to be honest, you must be honest with your spouse, children and other people around you.
Things can get a little more complicated as your child gets older and doesn’t lie just to get out of trouble. At this point, you may realize that the lies he tells are deliberate.
When teenagers or teenagers lie, you may need to try different methods than you would with your little one. Ask him why he is lying and try to empathize. Explain to him that it can be difficult to tell the truth, but that lying is not the solution either. Give examples of what bad consequences you faced when you lied before.
Show him that lying is a part of life and that he doesn’t need to be ashamed, but remind him that the sooner he gets rid of this habit, the less negative it will affect their relationship in the future.
How important it is to set an example for your little one is the same for adolescents and young people. Try to understand what he needs and do your best to meet them. Keep in constant communication with him and listen to him. Don’t do this just to give him advice or an answer. Listen to truly understand and empathize with him. Since no parent is perfect, it’s never too late to take action to meet your child’s emotional needs.
Translated by: Dilara Koru
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