In the first weeks of pregnancy, an ‘expected date of birth’ is determined by observing the development and size of the baby with ultrasound, taking into account the last menstrual period. However, those who are unaware of the intrinsic complexity of pregnancy do not hesitate to stress the pregnant person by assuming that the birth will take place on this expected date.
Pregnancy is considered normal for 40 weeks, but giving birth between 38 and 42 weeks is also medically normal. Since the expected date of birth indicates exactly a day predicting the 40th week, it is highly likely that it was actually said 10 days less or 10 more days.
Pregnancy can become more tiring, especially in the last weeks. The growth of the baby to be ready for the outside world can cause the mother to become heavy. The couple, who have been eagerly waiting for their baby for months, may be very impatient in the last weeks. However, whatever the wisdom, the ‘people’ are even more impatient.
It is very clear what not to say to a pregnant woman whose expected due date is approaching or has already passed. If you don’t want to be like that guy, or if you’re looking for ways not to worry about what was told to you in the last weeks of your pregnancy, you should read these suggestions carefully:
1- “When will you give birth?”
This question can be considered completely normal when asked in the previous weeks of pregnancy, for example, to someone who is 20 weeks pregnant. However, this question becomes meaningless as the time approaches, since the answer will be an ambiguous answer such as ‘I will give birth like mid-May’. If we are in May and we ask someone whose expected date of birth is mid-May when he will give birth, it would be a shame. We know when we give birth, right? Nobody is an astrologer.
2- “How big has your belly grown!”
Do not ask unanswered questions to pregnant women. How big is it? How old would you like it to have grown? Is it too big? I was thinking about this when I couldn’t sleep last night, really, how big! No, not twin. No, I don’t think it concerns you either.
3- “When I was pregnant …”
We like to share our own experiences. You have come across at least two neighboring aunts who are telling about their pregnancy and birth as if the military memory is telling. But it is no use telling an already impatient expectant mother how easy or how difficult your pregnancy is to an expectant mother whose birth has not begun on the expected date.
4- “Would you like to see another doctor?”
Of course, there are pregnant women who have met for months, changed their doctor at the last minute and went to the birth with another doctor. However, when the birth does not take place on the expected date, this has nothing to do with the doctor! In fact, this situation has nothing to do with anyone. We should not confuse a woman who has begun making plans for childbirth about her doctor; If they have doubts, they will share this with you and ask for a doctor’s recommendation. Do not confuse the doctor!