If you’re in a relationship and you have the strange feeling of déjà vu that you can’t fully explain, your relationship may be a karmic relationship. Grief counselor Breeshia Wade describes a karmic relationship as one that brings to light problems from another lifetime. Relationship expert Samora Suber adds that the belief behind karmic relationships is that they reflect a soul connection from a past life, with the understanding that there are some unfinished jobs that still need to happen in this life.
So have you ever felt like you were in a karmic relationship?
“A karmic relationship actually acts as a mirror,” explains Anjhula Mya Singh Bais, a psychologist and trauma expert. This means that the relationship can be both good and bad, depending on what it should teach you. And while believing that your partner in a karmic relationship is your soul mate; You will probably have to face some difficulties to accept it as a true karmic relationship.
As sex and relationship expert Shasta Townsend explains, not all karmic relationships are rosy. Rather, these relationships are those that reveal all of your “problems” (ie the traumas or problems you have to solve to become a better version of yourself) and also reflect your strength.
You are likely to feel very strong feelings for one another, whether it be good or bad. Suber says that even though you have met this person recently, you may feel like you know him for the rest of your life. You can also experience déjà vu together, have emotional memories or bonds older than your current relationship, and experience mental and emotional pain at the thought of letting your partner go. According to Bais, if you have very strong but negative feelings about your partner, it could also be a sign that it’s a karmic relationship. “You can definitely panic and hate someone who’s done nothing to you,” he says. Sometimes your instincts know best. Another sign of karmic relationship is density.
While feeling a strong attraction at first meeting is definitely a common feature in identifying karmic relationships, it doesn’t always mean that it’s a karmic relationship. “People often believe that powerful attraction is a karmic attraction, but that’s not always the case,” says the mystical healer Lacresha Hayes. “In Hinduism, karma is seen as a means of learning and evolution.”
Hayes says the biggest difference between a karmic relationship and any other intense relationship is the feeling of powerlessness. When you are in a karmic relationship, you will feel that your partner is literally part of your own soul, which makes it very difficult to end the relationship. If your body or soul feels that this other person is a part of you, protecting your inner self will make it almost impossible to get away from them.
While it is difficult to end a karmic relationship, there is motivation in your soul to keep you going. Bais explains that karmic relationships are “very difficult to end or get rid of unless the karmic lesson is learned.”
If you’ve had intense relationships in the past, compare them to your relationship that you think might be karmic and see how they differ. Hayes says that most non-karmic but still intense relationships can be stayed together because of ego, pride, neediness, and interdependence.
References: Carina Hsieh, ” Everything You Need to Know About Karmic Relationships ” (21 August 2020) Retrieved from: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a33647541/karmic-relationships-explained/