“Wounded healers are not born like that or have not arisen afterwards. They shape themselves by turning their suffering into strength and their troubles into strength. They are spiritual alchemists who know the value of confronting shadows and turning those shadows into light. They enlighten uncharted lands and find the help they seek, home and healing to lost souls. they help. “
The concept of the wounded healer is an archetype articulated by Carl Jung in the early 1900s. However, this concept has actually existed since the first day humans discovered mythology. If you are interested in this topic, you can read Chiron’s story. The idea is that the person walking towards healing his own wound becomes a healer over time.
Let’s define a healer as someone who is involved in someone else’s healing process. You are also a healer.
Let’s define the wound as a difficulty that causes you to suffer. You are also injured.
“Our wounds are a special invitation to our only way of healing.”
I couldn’t find a better way to learn about myself. If I was able to get out of a painful moment without being distracted or activating my coping mechanism, then I have learned something. I learned what is important to me, what my impulses are and what drives me to them. I learned what I was suppressing and what I was hiding in my dark corners. I learned that I had an unshakable side and I became stronger and more resourceful than I had previously thought.
The transformation you seek begins with your own wounds. This transformation can take place gradually in small steps, or it can be in the form of a sudden rise. Jung defines our wounds as a path to our subconscious, it can also be seen as the birthplace of our creativity. When we face our wounds, we reach a creativity we haven’t noticed yet. You wouldn’t believe how beautiful the world would get if we embrace it! Here your creative genius emerges, just as the world needs it.
Some may be ahead of others on this road, but still we are all together on this journey. Yes, suffering is a common feature of all of us, but what I mean is deeper than that. The way you suffer individually is actually the way your community suffers. People have gotten into your wounds in some way, they will continue to be and will continue to do so. Look at it from the outside and see that all humanity has a share in your suffering, just as you have a share in all human suffering. This is our pain, our wound and our healing.
It is possible that we remain stuck in our wounds, obsess over them, and become victims of them. We are not judging this, it can happen to all of us in one way or another. I don’t think anyone would prefer this kind of annoying self-obsession. We can get a different perspective on this issue by thinking that our wounds have served us over time. For example, your illness or trauma can make you receive compassionate attention. Your addiction can relieve your tension. Perhaps believing that you are not good enough is the way you connect with your friends. This is how we can get used to our lives and normalize our wounds. Your wound is something you will go through, not be trapped inside.
He said, “If the hammer is in the hand, everything appears in the nail.” We can reconcile with his word. For example, if your wound is due to poor boundaries in your relationships, you may understandably try to think that all your friends or clients would do the same if you got into the wound in the process and then healed and transformed. However, this may not be their fault. It can be really challenging to leave behind our prejudices about our experiences. But if we don’t try to recognize others when we have a completely blank sign in our minds, we risk more misunderstanding and miscommunication. We might miss the chance to help them heal.
I think it’s you.
Real You = You who are complete, complete and vulnerable to injury.
We were born this way and we were not aware of it because it all went this way. Later we were injured and our wounds took us out of this situation; it made us feel like it was missing, defective, or somehow damaged. Wounding can mean making our consciousness aware of our complete and complete formation.
Reality is contradictory. Our wound is what heals us. We are both injured and whole at the same time.
John Prendergast put it very well in the following words:
It’s true that we are all affected by our conditioning – by our imperfect parenting, by being ignored and harassed, by our traumas, by our unhealthy attachment styles, and by the rigors of life itself. However, and this is a really important point, we don’t fundamentally suffer from any of these experiences. We get hit at a relative level, which can be very deep at times. But basically we are not harmed. As humans, we are both injured and whole.
Translated by: Dilara Preserve
Reference: Kerry Darlington. The Wounded Healer in All of Us. Taken from: https://www.drerinmoore.com/mind-body-meld/the-wounded-healer?fbclid=IwAR2fZr2L4YRINL15vYhp2MwO9TTJVQBhgSqVtEH1t25pPrLV7-0LBjZ745k