No. This is not real magic, out of joke.
How to sleep during my pregnancy, how to not shake, how to learn how to sleep on his own, I should not sleep by breastfeeding… I kept thinking about these. Do you believe me? I never thought about how to lose weight, how to feed my baby, whether to take the breast or not, whether he will be able to make his poop comfortably. As such, my darling daughter did not break me and said, “If you are distracted by so much sleep, let’s sleep and see.” said. Then that book is yours, this seminar is mine, I started thinking about this work.
The advertisements that we always come across were the first ones I dreamed of. They said that if there are 24 hours a day, the baby should sleep 25 hours. Of course, once I searched for #baby sleep, my right and left were filled with sleep training pages. As I read these, I started to think that there was an abnormality in both ourselves and our baby. It took me a long time to realize that I didn’t have the abnormality. During this time, I started to keep the clock, saying that he should sleep, sleep, wake up. Wasn’t there anything wrong here? Didn’t we say that every child is unique in schools, the school writing process is unique to every child? So what was the difference in baby sleep? Why should every child born in the same month sleep and wake up at the same time? Couldn’t their needs be different?
As I started thinking about these, the pages I came across changed. This is how I attended the Attachment-Based Baby Sleep seminar. I read the series Baby Sleep in 100 Items, which I encountered with Oya Çanak during my pregnancy. (@oyacanak on Instagram, I strongly recommend you to read it.) But I believed so much that I had to sleep in the intervals of hours and that my baby had to fit himself. I came across a seminar while I was reciting his profile again due to Tomris’s sleep problems. He talked much more than “getting used to the lap, sleeping on the breast, don’t shake it”. What matters was the baby’s relationship with the caregiver.
He listed the factors affecting sleep as follows:
Epigenetic factors of the mother / father, mental health in the pre-natal period, their relationships,
-Sensory experiences at birth, birth being a positive experience for mother-baby, birth information
-Baby’s sensory profile, temperament features, allergic condition, screen usage, environmental factors, reunions, separations.
Of course, in addition to these, there are also factors such as episode periods, relationship with parents, teething. So every baby is special, every baby’s sleep is special.
There are striking examples in the podcast of Nihan Kaya, where Oya Çanak was a guest about the reasons affecting sleep. The babies of those who have active pregnancies get used to sleeping by moving, the clinical psychologist wakes up every 45-50 minutes with sessions of 45-50 minutes, and because John Travolta’s mother goes to the theater, she sleeps at 3:00 at night. Now, think about it, I walked so much during my pregnancy that I shouldn’t be surprised that Tomris was sleeping while walking on the kangaroo.
The normal baby sleep times he reported should be posted on city city billboards.
- 14-17 hours between 0-3 months,
- 12-15 hours between 4-11 months,
- 11-14 hours between the ages of 1-2,
- 10-13 hours between the ages of 3-5
- If he sleeps 9-11 hours between the ages of 6-13, we can call it normal baby sleep.
The thing to note here is that these periods do not only indicate night sleep. Total sleep times in 24 hours are mentioned here.
So, in what situations can we think there is a problem? A baby between the ages of 6 and 30 months, within the last week:
-If you are awake 4 times or more in the first 6-8 hours of sleep at night,
-If you are awake for more than one hour in the first 6-8 hours of sleep at night,
– If he sleeps less than 9 hours in total within 24 hours for 7 consecutive nights, he may be referred for clinical evaluation.
Let’s look at some sleep tips if we’re okay with these.
-Parents’ self-regulation allows the baby to fall asleep faster. Being there and now as a feeling means better quality and longer sleep. I notice this so much in Tomris’s every sleep. By saying that I shouldn’t be stressed, I shouldn’t be, I am creating more stress and creating Tomris’s sleep problem by myself. (starred item)
To prevent sudden infant death, the American Academy of Pediatrics recommends sleeping in the same room for at least the first 6 months. Even when security measures are taken, it has been found that sharing the same bed increases sleep quality. (Tested, approved.)
-Sleeping together voluntarily has been found to reduce stress and facilitate independence between the ages of 0-4.
-The sleep clock should be withdrawn gradually, not suddenly.
It is important that we relax our baby because the nervous system leaves itself when it relaxes to sleep.
Baby massage affects the development of the nervous system in the transition to sleep.
– Oxytocin hormone is secreted by touch, improving sleep quality.
The baby should have at least 20 minutes of daylight per day.
– It should not be exposed to intense lights before sleeping.
Red light should be preferred in the room.
-The room should be ventilated every day.
-It should be kept away from the screen.
-Before sleep, our baby’s interest, sociability, play and being satiated will facilitate the transition to sleep.
In summary, you can provide both your peace of mind and the peace of your baby by putting an ear to those who say that the baby should sleep like this, should sleep like this. Now calmly leave the baby in your hand to the bed “I’m with you, we will solve this, no problem.” say.
Dear mothers, do not forget that nothing will happen to you.