“How will home education be?” The advice of experts from different parts of the world coming to the question is beneficial for everyone. Here are some suggestions for the families of home-schooled children.
If you’re a parent trying to balance teleworking and distance learning from home, don’t waste your energy trying to turn home into school. Set the minimum layout required for your child but for more Don’t be too hard on yourself or your child. Your child may not want to attend some branch classes or may not be interested in activities for kindergarten, especially for young children. Instead of constantly fighting at home on this issue, talk to the administrators about the principles of the school and share them if you have different ideas about setting certain rules in times of trouble. You as a parent don’t try to be productive or perfect at all. High expectations for yourself and your child’s daily class, homework, and educational performance can become a source of extra stress. Although the transition to online and distance education seems to have happened in an instant, it is a process that everyone tries to get used to over time. Give yourself and your child time.
Although the online education opportunities have increased, it is necessary to admit that it will not be possible to catch up with almost unlimited options. Daily life with a healthy mood and psychological well-being prioritize continuing. While your child is away from school and friends, they may not want to access online resources for educational environments they do not know. Offer them only as options and give them the opportunity to explore on their own. This detail is especially important for adolescent students. While the transition process of schools to distance education has brought a big enough change, It may be a good idea to wait a while for extra training in some respects.. You can start working by accepting within yourself that you cannot benefit from all the free training opportunities offered. Realistically evaluate the conditions in your own life and to relax and free time make sure to take your time.
Instead of trying to implement a course schedule one after the other throughout the day teach short-term and effective classes Trying to set new boundaries on the subject can relieve you and your child a little bit. Lighten your expectations from your child in this direction. Keeping in touch with teachers and exchanging ideas on how to implement a flexible schedule provides a healthy flow of communication with the school. It is most beneficial to prioritize mutually facilitating each other’s work in this period when teachers are making an extraordinary effort. Reminding your child to do it again instead of giving suggestions like “study” provides a softer way of communication. It would be comforting that you, as a parent, do not expect an excellent performance from yourself.
As a parent, you can help yourself by repeating the following suggestion sentences;
- “I’m not doing homeschooling. I am not a parent educating from home. “I just do my best to help my kids learn at home during a crisis.”
- “I don’t work from home. I do my best to work from home during a crisis. I am not as productive as usual because these are not normal times. I will focus on what I can achieve in the next 24 hours and let go of what I am not able to accomplish right now. ”
- “I focus on what I have, I am grateful for it. I realistically evaluate what I can and cannot do and accept the result. “
One of the most basic ways to support your child during the pandemic is to stick to a regular schedule, even if you are at home all day. Its that there shouldn’t be a tight schedule It is useful to underline. During stressful times, routines and predictable daily tasks increase confidence and provide a calming effect. You may not be able to carry out your old routines. Creating realistic new routines with your current conditions and applying them to the minimum also provides a sense of trust on your child.
If you are trying to establish a routine but your children resist it, pay attention to the following;
• When creating a daily schedule and routine for your child, do not feel overwhelmed. Prioritize facilitation over tight order. For this that all family members are interdependent also should not be forgotten. Try to create a routine where the whole family will support each other’s needs. The day before or starting the day, review everyone’s schedule and identify the top priority things. Then determine what is needed for these tasks (such as silence, computer, tablet, kitchen gathered…) and discuss the order of priority amongst yourself.
• Do not see it as a problem, even if you cannot sleep in the same way every day to the daily schedule you prepared for home. Disruptions, what is working and what is unnecessary as an opportunity to realize see. If you find that you are setting high standards that are impossible to enforce, give them up instead of stressing to achieve them.
• What you have to do as a parent is not to create an 8-hour school day. What you can do; your child help him feel safe and doing your best with regard to the distance education program. Do not feel as if your child’s entire education life is interrupted when you cannot grow up. This is an extraordinary time when everyone is trying to cope and navigating through trial and error.
Tip: Establish “emotional control times” throughout the day. Don’t forget to include entertainment, exercise and social connections in your daily schedule. If you feel your child needs it, stretch the school schedule and add in-between activities such as dancing or making phone calls to relatives. If necessary, inform your child’s teachers about these needs and stay in touch with their school.
The truth is that your job as a homeschooling parent right now is to continue to build security, belonging, and acceptance rather than academic work. The basic learning issues of your children will be handled by the educators and the shortcomings will be compensated by the system in the process. The greatest skill you have to learn as a parent is how to manage the great emotions that arise from stress.
The area where you can communicate with your child in order to fulfill your expectations is not the hottest minutes of an event. In order for your child to listen to you and then be receptive to what you want to teach, he first needs to calm down. First of all, it should be the first priority in this difficult period for the child to feel safe in a calm environment without losing self-regulation skills. Being a parent who meets emotional ups and downs is also important for desired academic achievements. To do this, it’s a good way to try to empathize with him first.
Keep in mind that children will have a hard time meeting expectations when under stress. The antidote to expectations is empathy. Researches, that empathy can calm the nervous system and calming makes it easier for the thinking and reasoning side of the brain to get back on track. If your child is experiencing a burst of emotions, helping yourself and to empathize with the child That affirmations you can use;
- “My child does not make my job difficult. He is in a difficult situation. “
- “Behavior is a form of communication. By acting like this, my child expresses that he needs my help. “
In the extraordinary period, it is necessary to review the expectations from the children again, as well as to manage the stress reactions of children well. When your children experience great emotions, they can reflect them through behavior. If your child is overreacting to something that seems small to you, it may be showing signs of being emotionally intense. “You’re exaggerating!” Reactions such as “There is nothing to cry about” may increase the emotional burden and make him feel lonely.
The difficult period can turn into an opportunity. Being together all day can become the way to reconsider and improve the bond you have with your child. Reestablishing a secure link; In addition to facilitating stressful times, it also paves the way for your child to gain self-regulation skills for the coming days.
Compiled and translated by: Senem Tahmaz
References: “How to Reduce the Stress of Homeschooling on Everyone”. Rebecca Brenstetter (2020) UC Berkeley. Retrieved from: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_reduce_the_stress_of_homeschooling_on_everyone