Kalben made such a sentence that it became a slogan like a slogan: “Life is short, breasts sag.” Breasts sag, do you believe; hair grows, hair turns gray, our skin gets wrinkled. That’s how life flows. It is not my intention to create a new area of pressure with the stereotypes of loving our lines, let’s make peace with our whites. Because I know that this is not a state of emotion that will evolve when you get up and say “let’s love” while under so much attack. It takes a little bit of work.
I think let’s stop saying “love your body” to someone once. This sentence involves first of all “imposing” on someone what they should like and what they should not like. Let us decide whether to love it or not. Let’s fight this “hate”. People may not like their bodies. OK here. The main thing is not to tell someone that they should not love their body. It is a kind of “shadowing, no other bestowal”. The main source of the emergence of these body affirmation movements is all this negation that has been experienced for so long. In this case, even being body-neutral is an activist enough stance.
Cansu Dengey first, then Kalben. Is it a coincidence that the most recently involved in this movement are mostly women? Or are women at the center of all these affirmations and negativities anyway?
Let’s consider the headliners of the casino times. Mostly women. They are expected to appeal to both the ear and the eyes. Their costumes, their hair, their make-up, how they look are very important. Women are beautiful, women are flowers, women must also be “decors”. Then come “your face is beautiful actually” s, “you would be beautiful if you do this to shuran actually” s. Maybe we don’t find ourselves beautiful; but we don’t mind being beautiful. Can’t it be? Maybe we don’t have to find ourselves beautiful in order to value ourselves? Is it really necessary to like ourselves, to love our bodies? We have to turn here and have a look.
Weight is undoubtedly at the top of the main discussion topics regarding the body. As a matter of fact, Kalben’s response started as a result of a weight attack. We saw a similar one in Cansu Dengey. On the other hand, being overweight is not approved, and being “overweight” is not approved. Which need? There is an ideal, you must follow it. At this point, it is necessary to consider whether “oh how weak you are” is a compliment. For example, if we find it rude to say to someone “you have gained too much weight”, why wouldn’t we find it to say “you have lost too much weight”? Are we going to bring sarraf scales to comply with the standards? Is this weight job so sensitive for the male body as well?
As the digital age merged with the pandemic and social distances became longer, it became more frequent for us to look at the screens. We have always seen ourselves. Many of us are constantly exposed to our own image during the day in an unusual way. In addition, in these channels, where aesthetic interventions and filters are spreading rapidly, some “ideal” images constantly fall on our screens. It is almost inevitable that we compare ourselves, find ourselves insufficiently flawed. This is exactly why this is a much warmer agenda.
Dr. There is a 21-question multiple-choice test created by Aaron T. Beck to measure the severity of depression; Beck Depression Scale. You need to mark the sentence that best describes how you felt in the last week. The options in one of the questions are as follows:
- When I look at myself in the mirror, I don’t see any change.
- It feels like I’m older and uglier.
- I feel that my appearance has changed a lot and I am getting ugly.
- I find myself very ugly.
It is necessary to think carefully about why such a question might be chosen to measure the level of depression. A person’s perception of his body also points to information about mental health. This change of perception of people is sometimes spontaneous and sometimes external factors. The external effects we’re talking about here are essentially. Look, there are no options such as “I find myself very beautiful”, “I like myself very much” in this test. There is to be neutral and to negate.
Stopping dealing with the body frees people. When we minimize our bodily concerns about ourselves, our time and energy are left to focus on our mind and soul. Not to love / dislike, accept / not the body; removing it from being an agenda item is perhaps one of the most activist stances that can be displayed.