Hi, I’m a 29 year old woman. We are the same age as my boyfriend and have been together for 5 years. The reason I don’t want to marry him is because our relationship has become so ordinary. I guess people get bored after 5 years.
Everything was very good at first. In fact, we can say that the first 1-2 years were very good. We have common tastes and we normally get along very well, but I guess it is not enough to agree … I cannot say that he has a very lively and active life because his character is also like that. Nowadays, we have nothing more to share than to come home from work and watch TV series. I thought it was caused by the pandemic, but then I gave up: I think we are exhausted.
We have no common topics to talk about, get excited about and share our feelings with. Because after a while, our relationship has become routine, just like daily life. I am looking for a little more excitement and “spirit” in the man I marry. Of course, it would not be possible to call my lover “soulless” but I do not believe that I can continue this for longer.
I wouldn’t be happier if we broke up, but I also seem callous like that. Isn’t it better to have a good or bad emotion than to care about what you feel? I am just in a period when I don’t care what I feel, I started to be “boring”. I don’t just blame him, of course, I got very ordinary too. This is exactly why this relationship is not for me and I would like to be with someone who is more energetic and will give me different feelings if I marry.
I’m not lying now. I haven’t really seen any bad habits or mistakes of my lover, but obviously just being good is not enough for me. I feel guilty for feeling these things. I don’t want to continue in a relationship I’m not happy about, but …