Are you doing your best to be a good mother? “How to discipline the child? How to communicate with the child? How to talk to him? and How to listen to him?” do you know all this?
What is it to be a good mother, do you really have a full grasp of the subject? So answer this; “Is good motherhood overprotective?” If you answer ‘yes’ to that, get ready for the bad news: You don’t know how to be a good mom! Because although it is considered equivalent to this in our society, the overprotectiveness you display towards your child will harm him the most. Psychologist Leyla Navaro, ‘Do You Really Hear Me?’ For overprotection he says in his book:
1- It does not develop the personality of the child. A child who is dependent, demanding, timid, stubborn, gets what he wants, gets into irrational fights, and gets unhappy quickly creates an adult with similar qualities in the future.
2- It does not take the parents out of the parent role. It interferes with their daily lives, husband-wife and husband-wife relationships, which they can live as adults. In a child-oriented life, parents cannot take care of their humane self-needs in a healthy way.
- Preparing the school bag
- Choosing and dressing their clothes,
- To be fed by the mother when the child is old enough to eat himself,
- Dressing too much to catch a cold
- Mobilizing every time you miss the school bus,
- Don’t let it fall, run, get out of sight,
- Not allowing him to make mistakes, blaming his mistakes too much,
- Overeating and overeating
- Cooking only what the child eats, cooking according to everyone’s palate,
- Allowing the child to go to bed at any time in the evening,
- To maintain his whole life around the child, child-oriented,
- Constantly intervening in communication and conflicts between father and child,
If you are doing these too, you are overprotective of your child. Leyla Navaro underlines that one should not be overprotective about emotions in the book. Because overprotection manifests itself in emotional areas as well as in the areas of daily care, nutrition and service. Overprotection, which envisages that the child will not experience any painful emotions such as sadness, anxiety, fear, is to put children in an artificial world that isolates them from real life. It is to promise only pink worlds to the child, to get everything they want, to make everything easy without giving them any effort, and to leave the child unprepared for life, with the motto “Life is already hard, he will experience it in the future”.